Overcoming the Fear of Being Seen: How to Heal and Embrace Visibility | Ep. 62

What if the fear of being seen is the only thing standing in the way of your true potential? Join me as I navigate the intricate dance between wanting to grow and connect with a community while wrestling with the anxiety of public visibility. This episode explores my journey of confronting this fear, with insights. I share candid reflections on how challenging myself to embrace vulnerability has helped build resilience and confidence, even as nerves persist.

This journey isn't just about me; it's an invitation for you to reflect on your own fears and the possibilities that come with stepping into the light. We'll explore how accepting praise and recognizing the powerful qualities others see in us can be transformative. Tune in to discover the liberation that comes from shedding the fear of visibility and embracing authenticity, paving the way for impactful creative work.

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Transcript

Aliya Cheyanne: 1:21

Hop in, boys and girls. We're healing our fear of being seen. Hi, friend Aaliyah Cheyenne here, welcome back to the Prolific Hub podcast. It's time to heal our fear of being seen. Now this has been a theme that we've explored on the show quite a bit, everything from episodes like healing trauma, through memes and humor with Margot Feldman, all the way to Faith and Freedom with Chimney Hazier and so much more.

Aliya Cheyanne: 1:56

Now I personally have struggled with the fear of being seen despite having this podcast. On the one hand. Despite having this podcast, on the one hand, I obviously want the show to grow and for the people who are meant to find it to find it and be part of this growing community. On the other hand, I also have a bit of a deep fear of it blowing up beyond what I can handle and you know what I can handle, and you know getting recognized in public or the scrutiny and the hate and the negativity that comes with being visible on the internet. However, I know that I can't fully step into my purpose without being seen. Recently, I was speaking with my business coach about what my work is requiring of me right now, and we talked about a bunch of different things. One of them was this fear of being seen, and we explored the idea that perhaps I'm not meant to be the face of a thing. Perhaps I'm meant to be the invisible hand or the powerhouse behind the scenes, perhaps that my position is best played in the background, uplifting someone else's vision and work and company and all of those things, and to a degree I agree with that. I have always been excellent at supporting others, helping others to discover their own answers, setting up systems and structures that ultimately amplify a person, a brand or a business, business or a message. There have been times where I've burnt out with some of the projects that I'm interested in that require me to be the face of a thing. At the same time, there are aspects of my creative work that will absolutely require me to heal my fear of being seen, because, in order for me to create and share anything of impact, there is a level of vulnerability in being seen that is and will be required of me.

Aliya Cheyanne: 4:17

In late 2023, I had done an attraction factor an annual forecast reading for 2024 with Tracy L. An annual forecast reading for 2024 with Tracy L Rogers, who has been a guest on the show in the past, almost to the year, to the day this year. I recently had a birth chart reading and an annual forecast for 2025 with Tracy, and aspects of my birth chart literally confirm that I meant to be big and seen and heard. It was the confirmation from the universe that I needed at this time in the season of my life and the clarity that I had been asking for internally and externally, especially in this moment and in this time of my life where a lot of things have been uncertain. There are a lot of concerns with what my 2025 is going to shape out to be with my business, what creative projects I'm trying to launch as well. So that reading was right on time.

Aliya Cheyanne: 5:23

One way that I've been working to heal this fear of being seen is that, even in spite of it, I've still challenged myself to do what I want to do and put it out there for the world to see. Now that doesn't make it any less nerve-wracking or any less scary, but I consider doing this, like this practice, a step towards building habit and building a muscle that will one day become second nature to me. Healing my fear of being seen also means healing my relationship with self-promotion, whether that be promoting this podcast or any other project that I have in the future. I have to heal that fear of sharing my work and opening myself up to scrutiny. If I want the right people to find it, if I want the people who are meant to find my work to find me, I have to be visible. Healing my fear of being seen has also meant learning to be comfortable with praise and affirmation. Let me tell you, I like praise and affirmation in particular places, but out of nowhere. Sometimes it's not super comfortable, but recognizing that sometimes other people see powerful qualities in me that I can't always recognize in myself. So when someone is able to bring a blind spot into view, for me it's helpful. It allows me to continue in the way that I have been or to course correct if I need to course correct In this season of my life.

Aliya Cheyanne: 6:58

Healing my fear of being seen also means putting more effort into my appearance because unfortunately, for a long time and as I've gotten older, as my body has changed, especially throughout the pandemic and after I had lost a lot of the drive and the spark to just, kind of like, take care of myself in very basic ways, and it's been a struggle to bounce back. I'm sure other people can relate. There are a lot of folks who maybe went through the same rut and have since transformed themselves, and there have been others like me who have still been struggling. But healing my fear of being seen has meant that I need to start taking care of myself again. When I wasn't, when I wasn't taking care of myself, I wanted to be invisible and fly under their radar for a long time, and I'm just now finally moving into a space where I'm stepping out of that. Slowly but surely. I've been investing in little things when it comes to my appearance caring more about my outfit, caring more about some makeup every now and then, caring more about my hair, my appearance, caring more about my outfit, caring more about some makeup every now and then, caring more about my hair, my nails, caring more about, you know, throwing on a little perfume every now and then, caring more about jewelry that complements my face and my skin tone. On the more important side of that, it's been re-establishing my relationship with health and wellness and fitness and eventually incorporating other tools and habits that can help me to become the version of myself that I want to be, that I imagine that I envision Taking that version of me out of my mind and making her real, making her a reality, becoming her day by day, step at a time. I say all this to say that if you're struggling with being seen or feeling seen, it's important to see yourself first and validate yourself first. When you are so grounded in who you are and what you know and how you feel about yourself, you become an immovable force and thereby able to show up confidently in spaces as the best version of yourself. You know, all of this is like that.

Aliya Cheyanne: 9:15

Marianne Williamson quote our deepest fear, the one that says our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves who am I to be? Brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

Aliya Cheyanne: 9:45

You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. So who are you not to be seen?

Aliya Cheyanne: 10:27

I now recognize that in liberating myself and moving beyond fear and shame, I create more meaningful space for others to be free too. Friend, you deserve to be seen as much as I do or anyone else. I hope that you walk away from this episode feeling inspired to take up space and to never shrink again. So tell me, friend, how are you choosing to be seen today and all the days of your life? Let me know in a text to the show. Leave me a comment on Spotify if you're listening to this episode there. Or if you're watching this episode on YouTube, leave a comment there. Or let me know in a review to the show. You can leave me your answer in a review. Tap that five-star rating, leave a five-star review for the show and let me know what you think. All right, friend. Thanks for tuning in to another short but sweet episode. Thank you for lending me your time, your energy and your ears. I appreciate you being here. Have a great rest of your day or night and I'll catch you on the next episode. Bye.