So, They Don't Like You. Now What? | Ep. 59

Through heartfelt anecdotes and candid reflections, we'll explore how the "villain" serves as a powerful catalyst for self-discovery and evolution. This episode is inspired by insights from Vanessa Aldrich, a previous guest who shed light on how the "villain" could be our unintended teacher.

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Related Episode:
-- Ep. 52 | Timeless Wisdom for Modern Creatives: A Conversation with Vanessa Aldrich

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Transcript

Aliya Cheyanne: 1:21

Everyone's not going to like you, friend, but it's okay. Show up as your best self anyway. Welcome back to the Prolific Hub podcast. I'm your host, aaliyah Cheyenne, and today I'm here to remind you to stop taking stuff so personally. I'll use myself as an example.

Aliya Cheyanne: 1:43

I have done a lot of cringe things that I am not proud of, but that doesn't dictate my ability to evolve and to grow, and the same is true for you. Now I know for a fact that I am the villain in somebody's story out there maybe multiple people's stories, who knows? I could be the villain for something that I was completely conscious of, that I did and attempted to make amends for. Or I could be the villain for something I don't even know I did, but potentially offended someone, and maybe they're holding onto that and that idea of me and they'll never mess with me again because of it. That I don't have a lot of control over, and if that applies to you, you don't have a lot of control over that either. On the flip side of that, there are people who are absolutely villains in my story 1,000%, or maybe not villains per se, but maybe I would never mess with them again because I feel like maybe they did something really foul to me that I just can't move past. It is what it is, but I want to encourage us to think about the villain in a different way Now where this is applicable because this won't apply to every situation known to man, but for situations and instances where it is applicable I want to encourage us to think about the villain in the way that Vanessa Aldrich shared with us when she was a guest on the podcast in episode 52. In that episode, vanessa explains to us that the villain is there to catapult us into our hero's journey. The villain is there to be our teacher. So in this instance in some cases not all the villain is there to be our teacher.

Aliya Cheyanne: 3:40

Oftentimes, the villain is a reflection of what things in us need to evolve. The villain is, more often than not, a representation of our shadow self that, at minimum, needs acknowledgement and, at maximum needs healing and repair. Regardless, someone's opinion of us should never stop us from striving to be our best selves and to grow and to evolve from the situations that have transpired in the past. A person's memory of us or their definition of us doesn't stop us from becoming better people, whatever version of you that someone has of you in their mind isn't a total reflection of who you are. It's not the totality of who you are as a person. It's not the lump sum of who you are in the world today, how you operate, how you move, what you've learned, how you've grown, how you've evolved, the experiences that have transformed you. You are allowed to break free from that Now. This doesn't excuse bad behavior. This doesn't call for emotional avoidance or and some of y'all are not gonna like me for this but this also isn't another reason to throw up a wall and call it a boundary.

Aliya Cheyanne: 5:03

If you have some dub qualities that you need to heal and transform, go on ahead and do that. Whatever tools and resources you need to overcome that that stuff that's not ideal. Go on ahead and use those, apply those, grow and evolve. But always know that even if you are the absolute best version of yourself, with all of the greatest qualities in the world, someone out there is still not gonna like you, and they may not even have a reason for it, but it's inevitable, it happens. It could be because your light feels threatening. Maybe your light sheds light on the parts of them that need healing. Or it could be because your shadow reminds them of their own, and there's a part of themselves that maybe they've buried, that needs healing. So your presence, your interactions, your way of being existing might be bringing up conscious or unconscious things in them that you might not even understand. Either way, keep on being your authentic self and the best version of yourself that you are capable of being, no matter what. At the end of the day, we're human beings. We are an evolutionary species. We're destined, hardwired, programmed to grow and evolve as a species, but we can't do that without individuals that are willing to do the work, not just for themselves, but also for our collective. So, no, sadly, everyone isn't going to like you, your creative work, your business. Everyone's not going to like you, but oh well, oh well. That should never stop you from progressing forward. Okay, friend.

Aliya Cheyanne: 7:15

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